Needing to Please Others for Affection and Approval – Codependence and People Pleaser Syndrome

Though You should show Love to everyone, you can’t be there for everyone every time. Treating people with Love is very essential but requires good wisdom and balance, without which you may get stuck in webs you may not know how to get out of.

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There are many of us who asked to be loved by a parent who either refused to love us, or was incapable of loving us. This can carry over into adulthood as a disorder called codependence. People who have codependent tendencies also have People Pleaser Syndrome.

The traits of People Pleaser Syndrome include difficulty saying no, a phobia of upsetting people and being around negative emotions, and a tendency to do what others want even if it causes you discomfort or even harm.

This need for approval and love was not gratified as a child, and there is still a longing for approval from others. There can be a confusion between people loving you and people approving of you.

People can approve of your actions because your actions meet their own agenda. This does not necessarily mean that they love you, or even like you. There can be a tendency…

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