Happiness Thieves

Written by: Angel Chernoff, MarcAndAngelHackLife |
You ultimately become what you repeatedly
do.
If your habits aren’t helping you, they’re hurting you.
Here are a few examples of the latter that will steal
your happiness if you let them:

Habits that Steal Your
Happiness

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  1. FOCUSING ON EVERYONE’S
    STORY EXCEPT YOUR OWN.
    Don’t be so satisfied with the success stories of others
    and how things have gone for them that you forget to
    write your own. Unfold your own tale and bring it to
    life.  You have everything you need to become what
    you are capable of becoming.  Incredible change
    happens when you decide to take control. This
    means consuming less and creating more. It means
    refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and
    deciding for you.  It means learning to respect and use
    your own ideas and instincts to write your passage.
    If you want your life story to soar to new heights,
    you’ve got to clear a path, reduce the time-sinks and
    burdens weighing you down, and pick up the things
    that give you wings. Keep your best wishes and your
    biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to
    them every day. If you truly care about what you do
    and you work diligently at it, there’s almost nothing
    you can’t accomplish.
  2. WAITING FOR THE PERFECT
    MOMENT.
    Don’t buy into the myth of the perfect moment.
    Moments aren’t perfect; they’re what you make them.
    So many people wait around for the stars to align to do
    what they’re here to do.  The perfect moment, the
    perfect opportunity, the perfect state of being, etc.
    Wake up!  These states of perfection are myths. They
    do not exist.
    Your ability to grow to your highest potential is directly
    related to your willingness to act in the face of
    imperfection.  You will come to succeed not by finding a
    perfect moment, but by learning to see and use life’s
    imperfections perfectly.
  3. WORKING FOR NOTHING MORE
    THAN A PAYCHECK.
    Work without interest is imprisonment. Even if you
    aren’t super-passionate about your work, you’ve got to
    at least be interested in it.  When you design a lifestyle
    in which your work is something you suffer through
    daily strictly to pay your bills, you end up spending
    your entire life wishing you had someone else’s.
    Think about it. This is your life; your work will fill a
    large percentage of it. It’s not all about the money;
    it’s about you.  Ignore the propaganda, especially from
    people who say, “Don’t let your work define you.”
    Reverse this message and mediate on it: “I will do
    work that defines me.”  When the essence of who you
    are defines at least some slice of the work you do for a
    living, that work generates fulfillment.
    Bottom line: Interest in your work puts quality in your
    output and happiness in your mind.  Don’t settle for a
    paycheck. Shuffle around until you find work that
    interests you.
  4. HARBORING FEELINGS OF HATE.
    As Martin Luther King Jr. so profoundly said,
    “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do
    that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do
    that.”  Truth be told, when we harbor feelings of hate, it
    eventually gets the best of us.  It takes control of us.
    We forget why we hate, what we hate, and whom we
    hate – we simply hate for the sake of hating.  And then,
    naturally, we begin to hate ourselves too.
    Everything and everyone you hate rents permanent
    space in both your head and heart. So if you want to
    eliminate something or someone from your mind, don’t
    hate. Instead, disconnect yourself, move on, and don’t
    look back.
  5. HOLDING TIGHT TO WORRIES
    AND FEARS.
    Someday when you look back over your life you’ll
    realize that nearly all of your worries and anxious fears
    never came to fruition – they were completely
    unfounded.  So why not wake up and realize this right
    now. When you look back over the last few years, how
    many opportunities for joy did you destroy with
    needless worry and negativity? Although there’s
    nothing you can do about these lost joys, there’s
    plenty you can do about the ones that are still to come.
    You will find that it’s necessary to let some things go
    simply for the reason that they’re heavy on your heart
    and soul.  Let go of them. Don’t clamp shackles to
    your own ankles.  It’s incredibly easy to enjoy more of
    your life right now, no matter what the situation.  It’s
    just a matter of letting go of the layers of nonsense that
    are weighing you down.
    Let go of your worries and fears, of your rage and
    jealousy, of your need to always be right and control
    others. Let go of your pretentiousness and your need to
    have everything your way.  Underneath all these layers
    of nonsense there is a happy, productive person.  When
    you start peeling them off and simply appreciating
    everything for what it is, life can be wonderfully
    fulfilling.
  6. DWELLING ON DIFFICULTIES.
    A bad day is just a bad day.  Choose not to make it
    anything more.  Times of adversity will inevitably affect
    the conditions in which you live and work; yet you
    don’t have to let it affect who you are and where you’re
    headed. Take note of the setbacks and adjust to them,
    but don’t expand on them by making them a bigger part
    of your life.
    Every day brings new lessons and new possibilities.
    There is always a way to take the next step forward on
    the path you’ve chosen.  Events may be terrible and
    inescapable at times, but you always have choice – if
    not when, then how, you may endure and proceed
    onward.
  7. CONSTANTLY SEEKING FLEETING
    CONTENTMENT.
    There are two variations of contentment in life –
    fleeting and enduring. The fleeting type is derived from
    instants of material comfort, while the enduring type is
    attained through the gradual growth of your mind. At a
    glimpse it might be difficult to decipher one from the
    other, but as time rolls on it becomes vividly obvious
    that the latter is far superior.
    Enduring contentment sustains itself through life’s ups
    and downs, because through them your mind remains
    confident and at peace. On the other hand, when life’s
    fleeting changes have the ability to ruffle your mind
    into a frenzy, even the most elaborate physical
    comforts won’t make you any happier for very long.
  8. TRYING TO MAKE A BIG
    DIFFERENCE ALL AT ONCE.
    If you want to make a difference in the world, start with
    the world around you. Making a big difference all at
    once is usually impossible, and the process of trying is
    extremely stressful. However, instantly making a
    difference in a few lives is entirely possible and usually
    fairly easy.  You just have to focus on one person at a
    time and start with the one closest to you.
    Work to make a bunch of small splashes, and let the
    ripples spread naturally.  If you want to change a
    person’s mind or mood, sometimes you have to change
    the minds or moods of the people around them first.
    For instance, if you make one person smile, their smile
    just might make others smile too.  In this subtle way,
    you can touch the masses with your thoughtfulness
    without stressing yourself out.
  9. HOLDING ON TO SOMEONE WHO
    HURTS YOU.
    Sometimes you have to walk away from people, not
    because you don’t care, but because they don’t. When
    someone hurts you time and time again, accept the fact
    that they don’t care about you. It’s a tough pill to
    swallow, but it’s necessary medicine. Do NOT strive to
    impress them any further. Waste not another second of
    your time trying to prove something to them.  Nothing
    needs to be proven. Do not act with any thought of
    them ever again.
  10. OVER-AMPLIFYING THE
    IMPORTANCE OF PHYSICAL
    ATTRACTIVENESS.
    Infatuating yourself with someone simply for what they
    look like on the outside is like choosing your favorite
    food based on color instead of taste. It makes no
    sense. It’s innate, invisible, unquantifiable
    characteristics that create lasting attraction.
    Just as some people enjoy the smell of mint, while
    others prefer the scent of cinnamon, there is an
    undeniable, magnetic draw that attracts you to the
    qualities of certain people, places, and things.
    Sometimes it’s even the scars your soul shares with
    them that reels you in and creates the very hinges that
    hold you together in the long run.

From a heart that is very certain Jesus Cherishes you.

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