UNDERSTANDING THE WOMAN

For many women and men alike, the identity of a woman is a long questioned confusion. Who she truly is? What’s about her multi-faceted personality, What she is capable of? Her place in the strangling competitive world of success? Etc… I hope this article helps to answer all or some of such questions. Its a lenghty but very insightful article written by ……………… But don’t skip, lend out some minutes into this illumination or maybe even, strong reminder.

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JULIET EHIMUAN; Nigeria.
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It could be dificult for a man to understand how
women think, act and innovate unless  he has been
closely influenced by the women in his life. I’ve
learned that women may process things differently
and in their own terms. Fortunately for me, I’ve
been influenced by great women who made me
appreciate their approach towards leadership. I’ve
grown to understand their decision-making
processes, the dynamics and subtleties of their
personality and style, and other special character
qualities that women possess.

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OPRAH WINFREY.

The best women leaders I know have circular vision
that enables them to be well-rounded people. For
example, they have their finger on the pulse of the
culture and can talk to you about the latest pop-
culture news – but then easily switch gears to give
you their perspective on what is taking place on Wall
Street. Women leaders seeking a chance to be
significant see the world through a lens of
opportunity; they are especially in search of those
opportunities previously unseen (perhaps this is why
the women I know enjoy a good treasure hunt). My
experiences have taught me that great women make it
a point to teach men about women .

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I’ve seen women run the show for years both at
home and in the workplace, which has enabled me to
recognize behavior patterns and see the value behind
their way of doing things. These women are master
multi-taskers and highly collaborative (though not
afraid to get territorial to protect their domain). They
enjoy their own space to test themselves and find
their own rhythm. These women leaders are like
scientists: many of them want to make new
discoveries or solve for problems where others have
failed.   The women leaders I’ve been around don’t
stop pursuing until the job gets done. This is why I
believe they are good collaborative leaders – not
afraid of trial and error as long as they continue to
build the resource infrastructure around them that
gets them closer towards accomplishing their goals.
As one of my women mentors told me, “Without
enough of the right resources around me, I will not
risk the outcome. I know the resources I need to get
the job done right. I’d rather be patient than foolish.”
The women leaders I know invest in themselves and
become knowledge seekers. They are not afraid to ask
questions when given a safe platform to express
themselves. For example, during my keynote and
conference appearances – more often than not – it is
the women who ask me the most questions and they
are also more inspired to adopt new ideas and
ideals. Though extremely curious, it’s often balanced
with a bit of skepticism – after all, they don’t want
to be fooled or taken advantage of. My experiences
have taught me that women leaders need to trust a
person before they will endorse what they have to
say. Many just want to know that there is legitimacy
behind the opportunity.

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ELSIE. S. KANZA.  ;  Tanzania

As I’ve learned from my women bosses and mentors,
they want things to be authentic yet practical. These
women leaders enjoy a good challenge – and seek to
find meaning and purpose from each circumstance
they face and opportunity they are given. They like
to see and understand the connectivity of thoughts
and how they work or why they don’t. They want
all the facts and figures before making important
decisions.
Competitiveness amongst themselves may really be
about looking for validation — an identity that
matters and a voice that is heard. Successful women
leaders don’t rely on favors; they earn respect and
truly believe they can influence their own
advancement by serving others. Consummate team
players, they also seek to prove their value and self-
worth by exceeding performance expectations..
Looking for respect more than recognition, the most
successful women leaders don’t seek to become the
star of the show — but they enable others to create a
great show. In other words, being in the spotlight is
not what drives them – but rather it’s the ability to
influence positive outcomes with maximum impact.

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CHIMAMANDA ADICHIE; Nigeria.

One thing is certain: these women leaders
understand survival, renewal and reinvention. They
have grit and are not afraid to fight for what they
believe in or an opportunity to achieve something of
significance. They believe in what they stand for, but
that doesn’t mean they won’t put their ideas and
ideals to the test. For them, doing more with less is
simply a matter of knowing how to strategically
activate those around them.
While women leaders have their productivity secrets,
it’s not secret where they come from: the leadership
traits that women leaders naturally possess and –
based on my personal and professional experiences
– are the most undervalued.

  1. Opportunity-driven
    When confronted with a challenge, the women I
    know look for the opportunity within. They see the
    glass as half-full rather than half-empty. They push
    the boundaries and, when faced with adverse
    circumstances, they learn all they can from it.
    Optimism is their mindset because they see
    opportunity in everything.
    Estée Lauder, the child of Hungarian immigrant
    parents, was quite the opportunist in the cosmetics
    industry. During the postwar consumer boom,
    women wanted to start sampling cosmetic products
    before buying them. Lauder noticed and responded to
    this shifting dynamic by pioneering two marketing
    techniques that are commonly used today: the free
    gift and the gift-with-purchase. It’s exactly this type
    of inventiveness that other women use to pursue the
    opportunities in front of them.
  2. Strategic
    Women see what often times others don’t see. As one
    of my women mentors told me, “A woman’s lens of
    skepticism oftentimes forces them to see well beyond
    the most obvious details before them. They enjoy
    stretching their perspective to broaden their
    observations. Many women are not hesitant to peel
    the onion in order to get to the root of the matter.”
    At times they “play the part” to test the intentions of
    others and to assure that they are solidly grounded
    and reliable. Successful women leaders know how to
    play the game when they have to – and can anticipate
    the unexpected. They know what cards to play and
    keenly calculate the timing of each move they make.
    I wouldn’t be surprised to learn a woman leader
    made the word “organic” a business term. I learned
    that women who enjoy the ebbs and flows of
    business activity also know that the best things are
    accomplished when they are done naturally – and
    unforced. When things are happening organically,
    this means that they are functioning within a natural
    rhythm and speed – that is safer and risk adverse.
    This is not to say that women are uncomfortable with
    risk – in fact, they will often tackle risk head-on in
    order to get to the root cause of a problem and to
    solve for it (they value time and money). Women
    leaders who don’t allow their egos to stand in the
    way of good business are in the mindset of getting
    things done for the betterment of a healthier whole.

  3. Passionate
    While women in general were historically viewed
    and stereotyped as emotional leaders by men, I
    believe they are just passionate explorers in pursuit
    of excellence. When women leaders are not satisfied
    with the status quo, they will want to make things
    better. These women leaders get things done and
    avoid procrastination. As another one of my women
    mentors said, “They enjoy order and stability and a
    genuine sense of control. Many women have learned
    not to depend upon others for their advancement and
    thus have a tendency to be too independent.  A
    woman’s independent nature is her way of finding
    her focus and dialing up her pursuits.”
    When these women leaders are locked into what they
    are searching for – move out of the way. Their
    passionate pursuits allow them to become potent
    pioneers of new possibilities.  No wonder minority
    women represent the largest growing segment of
    entrepreneurs . According to a report by the Center
    for Women’s Business Research, U.S. Hispanic and
    African American women entrepreneurs grew at
    rates of 133.3% and 191.4% respectively from 1997 to

  4. Entrepreneurial
    Entrepreneurship is just a way of life for many
    women. They can be extremely resourceful, connect
    the dots of opportunity and become expert in
    developing the relationships they need to get the job
    done. Many women leaders also see through an
    entrepreneurial lens to best enable the opportunities
    before them. They know that to create and sustain
    momentum requires 100% focus on the objective –
    and so they don’t enjoy being disrupted by
    unnecessary noise and distractions.
    As one of my former women bosses told me, “Women
    can play into the politics of the workplace, and do so
    if it means adding value to the momentum they are
    attempting to create.”
    Many women leaders find excitement and motivation
    by being extremely creative and resourceful when
    completing tasks and other duties and responsibilities
    –. They avoid falling too far behind on projects –
    knowing that if they do it will disrupt their focus and
    momentum.   That is why I learned never to disrupt a
    woman’s focus and concentration if I can avoid it.
    My former female boss continued by saying, “This is
    why women like control. Not necessarily to be in
    charge, but to not lose the rhythm or compromise the
    momentum they need to accomplish their goals.”

  5. Purposeful and Meaningful
    I have found that many women leaders enjoy
    inspiring others to achieve. They know what it’s like
    to be the underdog and work hard not to disappoint
    themselves and others. Women leaders in particular
    often have high standards and their attention to
    detail makes it difficult for others to cut corners or
    abuse any special privileges.
    Women leaders with a nurturing nature are good
    listeners and excellent networkers/connecters. They
    enjoy creating ecosystems and support a collaborative
    leadership style that melds the thinking and ideas of
    others; this is what multiplies the size of an
    opportunity and/or its speed in execution in order to
    create a larger sphere of influence and overall
    impact. Women who don’t have to be right all the
    time make good consensus builders and will more
    likely enjoy participating in a team environment.

  6. Traditions and Family
    Whether at home or at work, women are often the
    glue that keeps things together and that is why they
    represent great leadership for America’s future.
    When they sense growing tensions that can lead to
    potential problems or inefficiencies, the most
    successful women leaders enjoy taking charge before
    circumstances force their hand. Women are usually
    the ones to secure the foundational roots of the
    family and to protect family and cultural traditions
    from wavering. They provide the leadership within
    the home and in the workplace to assure that legacies
    remain strong by being fed with the right nutrients
    and ingredients.
    The most successful women leaders are big believers
    in team building and the enforcement of mission,
    goals and values to assure that everyone is on the
    same page with like intentions.  This secures a sense
    of continuity making it easier for everyone to have
    each other’s backs. No wonder women are assuming
    more management and leadership roles in family
    owned businesses .
    To the great women in my personal and professional
    life, thank you for the opportunity to be inspired and
    mentored by your leadership (you know who you
    are). I’ve read many things about women in the
    workplace and their lack of advancement into senior
    executive roles and in the boardroom.  Rarely have I
    read something from a man who has been inspired
    and influenced by the wisdom of a woman’s
    leadership. Hopefully this perspective helps awaken
    more of us to the opportunity of learning about
    leadership from the women in our lives, whether in
    the home or at work.

Bottom line, you’re loaded with potential, greatness, power , valour, value, beauty, etc Even the most powerful women, have been through very tough times, they just didn’t let it stop them from touching their world. From your family onwards, begin to touch your world. You can start by putting a smile on your face, and then that of others,
         -Summer-Ice.

From a heart that is very certain Jesus Cherishes you.

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